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| Before I respond:
Joshsgirl - When you typed "Yes", is that what you think my answer is or were you replying to something else?
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Liam - What do you think my answer is? I'm curious to say the least. This is no way changes my response because I can't change a Yes into a No or Vice Versa, the facts speak for themselves. I will type the truth only & accept you attempt at proving me wrong......
(P.S. I am smart enough to know that you will never admit that I have won an arguement with the likes of you :) ) |
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| Oky doky!!
I think your either gonna say a flat out "no, we've always just been friends" or you might say "There was a brief point where I thought about it but that passed very quickly and we've always been best mates".
Both amount to the same thing really though, I think your gonna say "no".
Am I right?
ps. of course I would admit it if you won an argument - my 'similarities' (your words not mine!!) to Witter dont extend to having an ego the size of the southern hemisphere! :D |
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| Here's the honest answer I promised: Ready -
I have to say that from the first day I met my said "best friend" I was attracted to him. He's HOT - there is just no denying that. Girls fall at the mans feet (it's quite distrubing actually). His physical apperance is not an issue. So, have I ever considered being more than just friends with him - Yes, but only briefly & vice-versa. We've discussed it on several occassions after he or I became jealous of things that we didn't think "friends" should be jealous about, only to end up laughing about it in the end. We are best friends - plan and simple. We've slept in the same bed countless times, gone on road trips together (just the two of us), went to prom together, we even lived together for a while after high school. We've seen each other at our absolute worst & best. Now, this isn't to say that most of our mutual friends & significant others don't think we're crazy and we always end up in a debate about the movie "When Harry Met Sally" (hopefully you've seen it, if not, let me know & I will explain the significance). We find it amusing, but it doesn't change anything we aren't anything more than friends. We even started telling new people we meet that we are brother & sister to avoid discussing it all time. LOL!
With that said, this is not to aid my rationalization of D/J, I'm just answering the question. I only brought up my best friend to show the difference in relationships.
So Liam, I say you were right (someone slap me :? )- about the feelings part Only! Not the D/J debate. Now, I await my bite.......... |
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| Sounds like you and me have something in common - though you appear to deal with the situation a whole lot better than I do. Still swiftly moving on....!!!
Anyways, as I suspected, I was right about the way you see your soul/bestmate (and alarmingly accurate on your history!! Sometimes I even surprise myself!!! 8) :lol: )
**Inserting gumshield**
So here comes the bite!!
You said:
[quote:d59e617dfd]I have a best friend (male) who is my shoulder to cry on, confidant, etc. & I have known him since I was about 11yrs old. over half of my life. I love him without a doubt, but not in the romantic sense - like a brother if you will (i.e. what Joey's feelings for Dawson became). [/quote:d59e617dfd]
So I think, when Joey picked Pacey, because your experience of best/soulmates has shaped your view on how they work (as is totally natural, my view is too shaped by my own experience) your mind squared it off by automatically placing Dawson in the same box as your best mate. It makes sense to you, its comfortable and it fits. Which is why you are able to see 'Dawson and Joey' and 'Pacey and Joey' on different levels (one being friendly the other being romantic)
However, what if things had been different in your life? What if you and your friend had had exactly the same past as Joey and Dawson? (please, just go with me on this one) What if at varying points throughout your life you had been in love with him, in the romantic sense, and he had been with you (and at some points being with him was all that mattered to you), and therefore your experience of being that close to someone (yunno, in the way that only the closest and deepest of friends could be) was always also inexerably linked in your mind to romance and passion - whether you felt that way about him at this particular time or not.
I think two things would then be different. (I'm putting you in Joey's shoes now, you lucky thing!! :D )
I think you would agree that you cant just switch that feeling off, and suddenly get an epiphany that you and matey were only really soulmates in the platonic sense (sure, you may not have feelings for him at the moment and may feel all the passion and love for Pacey but...) you would still always associate the word 'soulmate' and the person who filled that role, with real love and passion - because that is how you had always understood that person and your relationship.
Secondly, I just dont think you would [u:d59e617dfd]be able [/u:d59e617dfd]to even see this mate (or for the purposes of this, we'll call him Dawson) as 'like a brother' - not for want of trying, but because its just not how you understood life to be, or your relationship to be, you knew no different.
If that's confused you (It's bloody well confused me), Let me put it this way. Remember those coloured bricks you used to have as a kid. Well lets just say you and me had kept a brick each (with us all our lives - leading to a lifetime of 'hey, is that a brick in your pocket or are ya just pleased to see me'?! quips) - [u:d59e617dfd]both of the same colour -[/u:d59e617dfd] only you had been told from birth that your brick was green (and until now that was all you knew and everything in your life had confirmed, made you believe - your brick was green as was everything else of the same colour) and I had been told my brick was blue (and that was all I knew and believed too.) - Now what we have here is you and me meeting up on a forum and I'm telling you your brick is blue, and your telling me mine is green.
Now I cant agree with you because I just cant comprehend that blue is actually green, and you cant agree with me because you cant comprehend that green is actually blue - ie for me soulmates (shoulder to cry on, confidante etc) means love and passion - as sure as my brick is blue. Whereas for you Soulmates of the Joey and Dawson kind (I appreciate that you can also understand soulmates in the romantic sense) means friendship in a 'brotherly' way- as sure as your brick is green.
Now when we get here, at the end of the day, who knows who's right about what colour they're brick is, the point is you just cant (and Joey couldnt) suddenly change your mind about something you'd understood to be true from day one - it would be like re-educating yourself about which colour was which.
Did that make any sense (or are you actually asleep now)?
PS, your Brick is soooooooooooooo blue!!! :wink: :lol: |
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| Okay, let me re-read that like at least 100 times & I'll get back to you with my reply ........ because right now - My head is spinning, I'm really dizzy & disoriented, with a huge smile on face :D that won't go away!!!!!
Don't hold your breath, I wouldn't want you to pass out or anything! |
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